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I agree with the pretty much all of the above, People will vent on anyone they feel has slighted them, and in some cases-whoever is in front of them. What we the receivers need to understand is, its not us they are yelling at, but themselves, they are deflecting their emotions to rid themselves of the negativity that is eating away at them. What we the receiver can't possibly know is what is going on in their personal lives that caused the outrage (ie breakup, new found disease et al). Some advice to anyone faced with that experience, Its not you, it has nothing to do with you, the attacker, is hurting and scared and you just happened to click online and straight into their space and time at the wrong moment. Leave the angry person with a kind word and walk away ♥
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ajqtrz
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There are various modes of interaction between humans. Face to face is the one which provides the greatest amount of information between the participants. Everything else loses fidelity or information. Phones lose frequencies and because you can't see the person, their facial responses are lost. Even audio-visual communication via online conferencing loses the context of the room, the off-camera information, and reduces the fidelity of the experience. And as for text base communication, the shorter the text the more likely you'll be misunderstood. The simple fact is, the less information you have about a communication environment the less likely you are to have good communication.
When it comes to the lower levels of communication, text based -- if you add anonymity you get a form of communication which allows the sender to suffer little to repercussions for their words. Given that most people use language to express themselves rather than to discover information and to interact with others, it shouldn't surprise us when they "express" themselves.
In the end it's the social connection to others which keeps us in line. We feel we need to be courteous because to be otherwise is to risk n ostracization or some other punishment. As the ability to interact anonymously grows and the use of text alone increases, so to the apparent rudeness.
People are more rude today because societies have fewer ways to punish the rudeness of the anonymous or at least semi-anonymous speaker.
At least, that's what I think at this time. My thoughts are always subject to change without notice.
AJ
When it comes to the lower levels of communication, text based -- if you add anonymity you get a form of communication which allows the sender to suffer little to repercussions for their words. Given that most people use language to express themselves rather than to discover information and to interact with others, it shouldn't surprise us when they "express" themselves.
In the end it's the social connection to others which keeps us in line. We feel we need to be courteous because to be otherwise is to risk n ostracization or some other punishment. As the ability to interact anonymously grows and the use of text alone increases, so to the apparent rudeness.
People are more rude today because societies have fewer ways to punish the rudeness of the anonymous or at least semi-anonymous speaker.
At least, that's what I think at this time. My thoughts are always subject to change without notice.
AJ