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Chef - loquacious Old Dog
Aggravation has been defined as an: "act or circumstance that intensifies something or makes something worse," and by "worse" it would seem the dictionary means to say less pleasant. Sadly, people get aggravated and generally speaking, do so when things intensify. In argument aggravation usually occurs in the presence of frustration and that, is in response to the failure of a conflict to be resolved, especially when they think it has been in their favor.
To avoid aggravation in a debate isn't easy but it is possible to a large degree. To do it though, you must start with the idea that you could be wrong. This short circuits the defense mechanism and allows you to actually deal with the question in a more rational manner. So start with "I could be wrong about this..."
The second step is to examine both sides of the issue. As John Steward Mills wrote:
"He who knows only his own side of the case knows little of that. His reasons may be good, and no one may have been able to refute them. But if he is equally unable to refute the reasons on the opposite side, if he does not so much as know what they are, he has no ground for preferring either opinion...”
This is, of course, a lot of work. The importance of the question determines if you want to do that much work or not. The question may not be as important to you as to your opponent and thus, you may think it not worth your time and energy. But of course, if your opponent does see it as more important they may put more work/effort into it and present more complex arguments. In reality it's a bit like two football teams, on of which has clinched the top seed post-season berth and has no need to win this final game while the other is in a fight to the death competition to win the last berth of the post season. Which do you think, psychologically speaking, will come better prepared to win?
So just as a good football team that wants to make it into the playoffs studies the film of the last opponents game(s) the best prepared debaters study their opponents arguments and try, the best they can, to even improve them until they, as John Steward Mills suggested, know their opponents point of view better than he or she.
The thing is, in those many classes a long time ago I discovered that the ones who were least aggravated by opposition to the most intense attack on their beliefs had done their homework and were never surprised at the tenacity, vitriol, or lack of logic of their opponent exactly because they had already seen it before in their preparations.
In summary: you avoid aggravation in debate by being humble enough to think you might be wrong and well enough informed you can present not only your own case well, but often the case of your opponent better than he or she can.
That's how to avoid aggravation in debate.
AJ
To avoid aggravation in a debate isn't easy but it is possible to a large degree. To do it though, you must start with the idea that you could be wrong. This short circuits the defense mechanism and allows you to actually deal with the question in a more rational manner. So start with "I could be wrong about this..."
The second step is to examine both sides of the issue. As John Steward Mills wrote:
"He who knows only his own side of the case knows little of that. His reasons may be good, and no one may have been able to refute them. But if he is equally unable to refute the reasons on the opposite side, if he does not so much as know what they are, he has no ground for preferring either opinion...”
This is, of course, a lot of work. The importance of the question determines if you want to do that much work or not. The question may not be as important to you as to your opponent and thus, you may think it not worth your time and energy. But of course, if your opponent does see it as more important they may put more work/effort into it and present more complex arguments. In reality it's a bit like two football teams, on of which has clinched the top seed post-season berth and has no need to win this final game while the other is in a fight to the death competition to win the last berth of the post season. Which do you think, psychologically speaking, will come better prepared to win?
So just as a good football team that wants to make it into the playoffs studies the film of the last opponents game(s) the best prepared debaters study their opponents arguments and try, the best they can, to even improve them until they, as John Steward Mills suggested, know their opponents point of view better than he or she.
The thing is, in those many classes a long time ago I discovered that the ones who were least aggravated by opposition to the most intense attack on their beliefs had done their homework and were never surprised at the tenacity, vitriol, or lack of logic of their opponent exactly because they had already seen it before in their preparations.
In summary: you avoid aggravation in debate by being humble enough to think you might be wrong and well enough informed you can present not only your own case well, but often the case of your opponent better than he or she can.
That's how to avoid aggravation in debate.
AJ