That's just a bad fellowship. Ask them to wait a couple hours so you can swap goods. It only takes a couple hours staggering and both players get goods on each NH. I hardly ever get helps jumped on in my fellowship. There are a couple of us who tend to log in at the same time but we don't stalk each other's NH.I'm not happy with people who jump on a return NH every time you gift them, so that they collect the supplies and you don't.