I did end up joining fellowships (I have two cities now) but I didn't appreciate the pressure beforehand from many members in the forum upon learning I was in chapter five and playing solo (gasp!!). I am glad the game itself does not pressure or force FS participation, especially in the beginning of the game. I did what I wanted and would not have appreciated being told what to do (I still don't, to a degree, lol, still refusing to build some things because "it told me to"). One of the great things about this game is that there is virtually no "wrong" way to play (despite what some players would have you think as they try to tell you their way is
the way).
It seems some use the drop-out rate as evidence toward the need for the game to be more direct in what to do, which I have difficult time understanding because I did not encounter anything unclear that interfered with my success. (The exception to this is the barracks: as a cater-only player, I have zero need for barracks and that is one building that is presented as important but you cannot sell it once you realize it's not for you. Not building it was the only thing I would have done differently if I knew then what I knew later, and so my second city has none. The only interference it created was monopolizing space that I would rather have used for buildings that actually benefited my city.) My impression is that a common reason for quitting early is simply frustration after discovering the game isn't what they thought it would be.
After I joined the forum, I got a ton of FS invites and questions about why I wasn't interested in FS (in addition to pressuring comments in the forum). It was one thing to have made it that far without having experienced fellowships, but another for me to resist and repeatedly turn down offers. This seemed incomprehensible to many. There was one player who reached out who didn't give me a hard time about it. They asked questions but didn't argue with me about my choices. They were willing to offer advice and answer questions even though they had no "obligation," no ties to me since I wasn't part of the FS. (Thanks
@Henroo, I'll never forget it) Eventually, I joined the fellowship they were in and I've been glad for the benefits. I did have access to tourney and FA since I had created a solo-FS for myself, but as a solo player, I couldn't get far with those (designed for group contribution) so couldn't effectively benefit from them. I was always grateful for your support
@shimmerfly when I was solo (as a fellow solo player) and resisting the pressure to do things a certain way (I still do things my way, lol---"keep it square!"
they keep saying--ha!). I got some raised eyebrows about many of my choices and appreciated the members who supported me anyway (
@Iyapo1 and others). After a few months, everyone backed off from trying to persuade me and let me be. I still support any player's choice to play solo. I had zero complaints during that time. I am realizing now (unless I have misunderstood) that one of the differences between us was availability/frequency. I am very active (like, log-in
several times a day); If I was not able to log in dependably (varying/unpredictable RL), my gameplay rhythm and tempo would likely be very different and I'd probably still be satisfied and happy to play solo.