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Chef - loquacious Old Dog
I thought I'd share what I often share with the young people who come to my classes, many of whom have experienced a whole lot of habitually used "blue" language. I tell them the following two reasons to drop their use of such language to almost nil or even nil if they can.
1) We are constantly speaking to people. Many of our conversations are in public. Thus, there may be many people who we don't know around us. Some of those people may be offended by our dropping the "f-bomb" or other colorful language. Since nobody is offended by my NOT using such language (Has anybody ever complained to you that they hate it that you don't use such language?) why take the chance of offending somebody needlessly.
2) We are constantly speaking to people to persuade them to do something. Part of that persuasion is giving them a sense of how important the thing we are trying to get them to do is to us. In other words, we want them to feel it's important to us. There are only three ways to do that. First,. you can use gestures. Second, you can raise your voice. Third, you can use words. The first is useful but not always as clear as the second. The second works pretty well, but may not be heard. The third can always work -- provided the words used are of the type that get people's attention...the colorful type. The problem being that when you use colorful language all the time, those who know you and whom you would like to understand just how upset you really are, aren't going to notice you dropping an "f-bomb" because you use it all the time! When you use such language all the time you have nothing more forceful in your arsinal of words with which to really have an impact when you need it.
So from a practical point of view the overuse of colorful language may offend others needlessly and gives you no way to use words to get people to understand just how upset you are or the importance of what you are saying.
I use such language on average once a year. When I do everybody drops what they are doing and PAYS ATTENTION! And I never offend anybody with the language I use exactly because when I use such language it's pretty much understood that the situation is such that such language is called for.
Just some thoughts.
AJ
Bonus thought: Using abbreviations in place of the actual language is not an improvement in text. "WTF" is not repeated in the receivers head as "W" "T" "F" but "What The F..... " and so they "hear" the word, not the abbreviation.
1) We are constantly speaking to people. Many of our conversations are in public. Thus, there may be many people who we don't know around us. Some of those people may be offended by our dropping the "f-bomb" or other colorful language. Since nobody is offended by my NOT using such language (Has anybody ever complained to you that they hate it that you don't use such language?) why take the chance of offending somebody needlessly.
2) We are constantly speaking to people to persuade them to do something. Part of that persuasion is giving them a sense of how important the thing we are trying to get them to do is to us. In other words, we want them to feel it's important to us. There are only three ways to do that. First,. you can use gestures. Second, you can raise your voice. Third, you can use words. The first is useful but not always as clear as the second. The second works pretty well, but may not be heard. The third can always work -- provided the words used are of the type that get people's attention...the colorful type. The problem being that when you use colorful language all the time, those who know you and whom you would like to understand just how upset you really are, aren't going to notice you dropping an "f-bomb" because you use it all the time! When you use such language all the time you have nothing more forceful in your arsinal of words with which to really have an impact when you need it.
So from a practical point of view the overuse of colorful language may offend others needlessly and gives you no way to use words to get people to understand just how upset you are or the importance of what you are saying.
I use such language on average once a year. When I do everybody drops what they are doing and PAYS ATTENTION! And I never offend anybody with the language I use exactly because when I use such language it's pretty much understood that the situation is such that such language is called for.
Just some thoughts.
AJ
Bonus thought: Using abbreviations in place of the actual language is not an improvement in text. "WTF" is not repeated in the receivers head as "W" "T" "F" but "What The F..... " and so they "hear" the word, not the abbreviation.