Darielle
Chef, Scroll-Keeper, and Buddy Fan Club Member
Let me preface this by saying that I am speaking of no one in particular. I would like to get a bigger picture of my own feelings about an incident involving a new player. I was basically an observer. I could have a skewed view of things, and if I do, you would be the ones to tell me.
On Elvenar, people are often very kind. I find so many willing to take zero and one star trades in order to help people out. They have big hearts and they want to help, but at what point does having a big heart end and intimidation or even bullying begin? The problem arises when different people have different styles of play, and one side wants to limit their options. (By the way, touché if you decide to turn this into an argument for the freedom of the gougers … yes, I have thought about the irony here. That's why it's titled a psychological dilemma, lol.)
Ok, I'll get down to specifics. I'm a three-star seller. I have been since day one. I just like offering goods to give people a little help, and since I only offer boosts, it doesn't hurt me to pass a little of that boost onto others (and my boosts are not the ones in huge demand … what I wouldn't give for crystal! But I digress …) I have more fun playing this way, and it makes me feel good. It did even when I was new, and I know lots of new players who feel the same way.
However, I would never force others to my way of thinking. I would never say, "You must do three-star trades or I won't trade with you." To me, that's bullying. It's limiting the choices of other players.
But what about the reverse? What about bigger players who refuse to help little ones, especially new fellowship members who do three star trades? Rather, they "insist" on zero, one or two star? They are mostly mid-late game players with millions of goods. They do it with completely good intentions, but when it's aggressive, isn't that a form of coercion, bullying, or intimidation? They are hurting the people they really want to help with, " my way or the highway" tactics. They are limiting another player's play style and enjoyment of the game, and causing bad feelings when they are trying to do the opposite.
Basically, some people just enjoy offering three star. Why refuse to allow them that enjoyment by punishing them and refusing to take them?
You get my point, so I won't drone on (as I tend to do). Thoughts? Go ahead and rip ... I know there are two sides to this and I'm trying to understand both.
On Elvenar, people are often very kind. I find so many willing to take zero and one star trades in order to help people out. They have big hearts and they want to help, but at what point does having a big heart end and intimidation or even bullying begin? The problem arises when different people have different styles of play, and one side wants to limit their options. (By the way, touché if you decide to turn this into an argument for the freedom of the gougers … yes, I have thought about the irony here. That's why it's titled a psychological dilemma, lol.)
Ok, I'll get down to specifics. I'm a three-star seller. I have been since day one. I just like offering goods to give people a little help, and since I only offer boosts, it doesn't hurt me to pass a little of that boost onto others (and my boosts are not the ones in huge demand … what I wouldn't give for crystal! But I digress …) I have more fun playing this way, and it makes me feel good. It did even when I was new, and I know lots of new players who feel the same way.
However, I would never force others to my way of thinking. I would never say, "You must do three-star trades or I won't trade with you." To me, that's bullying. It's limiting the choices of other players.
But what about the reverse? What about bigger players who refuse to help little ones, especially new fellowship members who do three star trades? Rather, they "insist" on zero, one or two star? They are mostly mid-late game players with millions of goods. They do it with completely good intentions, but when it's aggressive, isn't that a form of coercion, bullying, or intimidation? They are hurting the people they really want to help with, " my way or the highway" tactics. They are limiting another player's play style and enjoyment of the game, and causing bad feelings when they are trying to do the opposite.
Basically, some people just enjoy offering three star. Why refuse to allow them that enjoyment by punishing them and refusing to take them?
You get my point, so I won't drone on (as I tend to do). Thoughts? Go ahead and rip ... I know there are two sides to this and I'm trying to understand both.