I'm happy that some of you find such great fellowships, and I'm happy that some players actually enjoy fellowship-hunting. For me, well, I was attracted to the idea of a FANTASY CITY BUILDER game (which is how it's advertised, no?). I'm here for fantasy city building. Trading, sure; neighbourly help, no problem; tournaments, more and more meh, but ok; battles, used to be fun, now absolutely not; fellowships for social interaction and helping out with trades and stuff, yeah, it can be fun, but it's really not the primary goal for fantasy city building, now is it?
It still comes to this: even if I check out a couple fellowships every day, there is still no way to tell from the outside whether a fellowship will trade fairly or meet my needs or be in any way cooperative. It's unreasonable to expect players of a fantasy city builder to try fellowship after fellowship just to find one where (again) everybody gets along and doesn't ignore NH courtesies and has similar goals and can follow the same rules and needs my boosts and and and. Sure, a "perfect" fellowship isn't absolutely required to enjoy the game, but a bad fellowship can make it no fun to play, and something else that a lot of people do not find fun is trying FS after FS after FS. (Yeah, I get it, some people do enjoy that. You'd think those fantasy sports games, with the team building and trading and all that, would be a better place for that kind of thing, but if Inno is pushing FS-hunting here then it's great that you like it.)
I don't see much point in my commenting any further, here. Thanks to all who have offered advice; thanks to Inno for providing a game that is still kind of fun; thanks to everybody else who will continue to post comments here in the hopes that Inno will take player concerns into consideration. If anybody knows about other games that could fill my fantasy city builder-needs (basically, looking for "Elvenar before the combat/wholesaler/etc. nerfs"), that might be a helpful thing to add to the discussion.